Ecclesiastes 9:16-18 (KJV)
16 Then said I, Wisdom is better than strength: nevertheless the poor man’s wisdom is despised, and his words are not heard.
17 The words of wise men are heard in quiet more than the cry of him that ruleth among fools.
18 Wisdom is better than weapons of war: but one sinner destroyeth much good.
Every day, we pour ingredients into our relationships – relationships at home, relationships at church, relationships at work, relationships in the community. We can use weapons in our relationships or we can use wisdom. Weapons hurt and destroy relationships. Weapons like threats and weapons like silence and weapons like generalizations (you never, or you always…) hurt and create wounds. In Ecclesiastes 9, the wisest man at one time in all the world, Solomon, teaches us that wisdom is better than means of war. In work, some people say, “work smarter, not harder.” In the home, we must operate by wisdom rather than by force or control all the time. The first two blog posts in this series, will focus on what wisdom looks like in our relationships.
Proverbs 24:3-4 (KJV)
3 Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established:
4 And by knowledge shall the chambers be filled with all precious and pleasant riches.
If we want to build relationships, then wisdom must be our choice each day in relationships rather than weapons.
While I will be writing a few articles on this theme of Building Biblical Relationships, it is important to understand what wisdom looks like in our everyday relationships.
James 3:17-18 (KJV)
17 But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.
18 And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.
Notice that wisdom from above begins with purity. If we are going to exercise wisdom in our daily relationships, then our days must begin with a pure heart toward others. Often times people allow things to fester in the heart and do not purify their hearts toward one another. This is a necessity if you are going to operate with wisdom from above. Would you incorporate a time with the Lord each day where you purify your heart before others?
The 2nd quality of wisdom from above is peace. In the home, we ought not to delight to keep an argument going or to fight with words, but rather follow after the things which make for peace (Romans 14:19). Notice the next ingredient of wisdom is gentleness. Gentle people are approachable people. Gentle people are Spirit-filled people. Gentle people know how to resolve conflicts.
In our next article, we dive deeper into what wisdom looks like in our relationships. For now, let’s focus on beginning our days with purity of heart toward one another, being a peaceable, and bringing gentleness into our relationships. This IS wisdom from above!