Colossians 3:5 (KJV)
5 Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry:
When was the last time you heard a sermon dealing with inordinate affection? This sins is overlooked in part because inordinate is not a common word used in our language today.
In Colossians 3:5, the Bible instructs us to put different works of the flesh to death (mortify) in our lives, one of which is inordinate affection. “Inordinate” carries the idea of something that is excessive; over the top; unrestrained; outside the boundaries; not limited to rules prescribed, or to usual bounds.
Revels said, “Inordinate refers to something outside of / instead of God.” “Affection” on the other hand means an emotion of the mind, a passion, or anything in which you are willing to suffer for. Therefore an inordinate affection is anything outside of or instead of God that you are willing to suffer for. It is over the top affection that you have for something or someone that supercedes your affection and love for God.
Are you willing to suffer in your relationship with God, and give up spiritual ground for material goods, for fame, for pride, for illicit relationships, for stubborness? These are inordinate affections.
Inordinate affection is referring to something in which we have excessive affection towards. It could be taking up an offence on behalf of someone else, it could be developing a love for something that begins to consume your thoughts and your attention and your time. It could be manifest by developing an emotional bond with someone outside the bounds of your marriage.
What is the answer in dealing with this sin?
Confessing (agreement with God regarding this sin in my life)
1 John 1:9 (KJV)
9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Forsaking (A change of mind resulting in forsaking inordinate affection, realizing that every time I yield myself to inordinate affection I am bringing about suffering in my life)
Proverbs 28:13 (KJV)
13 He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy.
Taking Control of Your Affections
Colossians 3:2 (KJV)
2 Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth.
Each and everyday by yielding to the Spirit, and spending time with Christ in His Word and in Prayer, I have the opportunity and choice to set my affections on things above. My passions are my choice. Is something in your life excessive, emotionally controlling you, something you are suffering from in your daily focus, something that rules you, then today, Reset your affections on Christ. Living your life with your affections under control requires time with the Lord and yielding control to the Spirit.
Philippians 4:4-7 (KJV)
4 Rejoice in the Lord alway: and again I say, Rejoice.
5 Let your moderation be known unto all men. The Lord is at hand.
6 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
7 And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.